tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post345910690642111383..comments2023-10-28T11:39:49.358+01:00Comments on Two Weeks on a Trolley: Is there something wrong with me?The two weeks on a trolley teamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05117875014631764039noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-22449438550919902522007-08-19T17:25:00.000+01:002007-08-19T17:25:00.000+01:00I usually cry when we lose a kid.After my shift is...I usually cry when we lose a kid.<BR/><BR/>After my shift is over. There isn't really time before then. The last time I cried before the shift was over, I'd known the child for nearly six months. If it didn't touch you at all, I'd worry that you should get out. But you were saddened. You just kept control.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-56560543396100670382007-08-09T23:39:00.000+01:002007-08-09T23:39:00.000+01:00You dont go on a 3 day bender when you save a chil...You dont go on a 3 day bender when you save a childs life. .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-1094442612207669472007-08-08T20:03:00.000+01:002007-08-08T20:03:00.000+01:00If I brought my nephew or niece into A+E with a se...If I brought my nephew or niece into A+E with a serious condition I want a doctor who is focused on the job, dispassionate and clear of mind. I dont want a teary mess because his last patient was a no-hope case who bit the big one. <BR/><BR/>Sorry if that sounds callous, but you're job is to save peoples lives and you can only do that with living people. At the end of the shift, reflect if you feel like it but time is a factor and what if the next kid had had something far more serious then an ear infection. There are plenty of people to empathise with the parents, there arent many people who can save the next kid.<BR/><BR/>Stay clear of mind, focused on the job and detached from situation. If I were a parent, I dont care if you are the most heartless c*nt God ever put in shoe leather so long as you do your very best to save my kid and that requires you to be on the ball not an emotional wreck.<BR/><BR/>DeV.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-70102910283081703382007-08-05T23:20:00.000+01:002007-08-05T23:20:00.000+01:00It's quite a contrast to the scenes on a DME (care...It's quite a contrast to the scenes on a DME (care of the elderly) ward in the hospital where I used to work. There was normally an unseemly squabble to get the "ash cash"<BR/><BR/>--PharmacienAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-27948938895569700222007-08-05T14:15:00.000+01:002007-08-05T14:15:00.000+01:00Welcome to the blogosphere!Professional distance i...Welcome to the blogosphere!<BR/><BR/>Professional distance is a must, as professionals we need to protect ourselves, being sad is a normal reaction to the death of a child.<BR/>If you did not care anymore you would not of written about this experience.Advanced Practitionerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02967854026416929382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-77472261943819741292007-08-05T13:20:00.000+01:002007-08-05T13:20:00.000+01:00It's not wrong that you don't cry, you have admitt...It's not wrong that you don't cry, you have admitted that you were sadden by the death of the child. You mourned her, but moved on quickly because as a doctor you are forced to. Even if you feel this is wrong, it is never your fault. The career calls for professionalism and the ability to step back. You seem to show that and still care. <BR/><BR/>Like above, when you stop *caring* then you should get out not when you don't cry.Future Dochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565815579023038079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-54234165559032060072007-08-03T20:15:00.000+01:002007-08-03T20:15:00.000+01:00I agree with with the previous posters, give it a ...I agree with with the previous posters, give it a few more weeks before you pack it in and become a plumber. Welcome to the blogosphere and I look forward to the next one!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-42919574147575139392007-08-03T09:09:00.000+01:002007-08-03T09:09:00.000+01:00i think people deal in different ways.i've had man...i think people deal in different ways.<BR/><BR/>i've had many patients die, and it can be tough, but for the vast majority of those cases you just have to move on. Professional distance is the key thing. No matter whether your doctor or nurse or any other health worker.<BR/><BR/>I don't think that it means you shouldn't be doing the job, I think it just means your getting better able to copeAin't No Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12337187605124468036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-33444012920629190042007-08-02T08:06:00.000+01:002007-08-02T08:06:00.000+01:00I think you need professional distance, or your ab...I think you need professional distance, or your ability to do your job is compromised. Maybe it's just another price you have to pay to do the job you do.<BR/><BR/>sincerely, thanks.Caimohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04547042321461231666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-51243678036493343502007-08-02T00:24:00.000+01:002007-08-02T00:24:00.000+01:00Not a doctor, just a transfusion scientist, so I d...Not a doctor, just a transfusion scientist, so I don't know how much worth my opinion is; however, I wouldn't be too quick to say there's anything "wrong" with you at all. Now, I don't know you, so when you say you were unaffected I don't know exactly in what way you mean, but I think it's perfectly possible to be affected, to be saddened, and just have enough control that you don't indulge in the pain and sorrow (it can be a subconscious control - it doesn't have to be that you are consciously making the effort not to be overcome). And like you said, you were the one who was able to go off and deal with a boring, mundane ailment 5 minutes later. Boring, mundane and non-life-threatening it might have been, but the poor kid still didn't need to wait half an hour while people got hold of themselves :)<BR/><BR/>I agree with the idea that if you stop *caring* about the death of a child, then get out of paediatrics, just like if you stop *caring* about the death of any patient, get out of clinical medicine, but caring about something doesn't have to mean crying about it.<BR/><BR/>Besides, people like me will cry enough for any number of non-crying people :)microgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05996919876172882354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-880418218083230158.post-25738105979783620262007-08-02T00:19:00.000+01:002007-08-02T00:19:00.000+01:00I long ago stopped getting upset by individuals dy...I long ago stopped getting upset by individuals dying. It does kill me to feel I've failed someone (even when I know deep down it was out of my hands) but the idea of loss being upsetting went a long time ago.<BR/><BR/>Its not something wrong with you though, thats not something you should ever consider.The two weeks on a trolley teamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05117875014631764039noreply@blogger.com